Spring is in the air, and that means romance to many of us. Anniversaries and vacations, moonlit strolls and blooming roses…If you find you’re not quite in the mood, maybe some of these great marriage guides can help.
A classic in the field of marriage counseling for more than a decade, The five love languages: how to express heartfelt commitment to your mate by Gary Chapman, is still high on the list of recommended works from counselors and from Amazon. Chapman feels that the five languages couples use are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman uses a friendly, humorous style that makes the advice more palatable. Another classic, now in a 20th anniversary edition, Getting the love you want: a guide for couples by Harville Hendrix, is somewhat drier, but it offers a 10-week course with exercises that is designed to help couples interact in a more effective manner.
The new rules of marriage [give him what he needs to give you the love you want] by Terrence Real (book on CD) is a recent addition to the field and offers advice on adjusting a couple’s relationship to 21st century realities. He will help you
- identify and articulate your wants and needs,
- listen well and respond generously,
- set limits, and stand up for yourself,
- embrace and appreciate what you have,
- know when to seek outside help.
Real has written several other popular books as well, including one on male depression called I don’t want to talk about it.
Saving your marriage before it starts: seven questions to ask before—and after—you marry by Les and Leslie Parrott is another popular book with more than 600,000 copies sold and a recent updated version. Geared mostly toward young couples, it helps couples deal with so-called “common sense issues” that they may overlook. Many readers have enjoyed the friendly style the married couple utilize as they deal with sensitive topics in a non-intimidating way.
Another familiar name in marriage matters, John Gray, brings us an illustrated version of his first blockbuster. Truly Mars & Venus: the illustrated essential Men are from Mars, women are from Venus takes the groundbreaking work and adds the art and cartoons of Barbara State to give the work new appeal and depth.
Oprah, Cosmo, NPR, GMA and many others have featured the book Why talking is not enough: eight loving actions that will transform your marriage by Susan Page. Highly esteemed by many experts, this book takes marital relationship rescue from talking methods to loving actions. Daunting? Not at all—the actions are easy to do!
Also, every Jackson couple will want to visit Jackson’s own website for marriage, marriagemattersjackson.com. Packed with tons of helpful information, events and contacts, there is no better place to visit for marriage help.